Get on with your life and look for the next one, assuming you are looking. AH! Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. We are friends still but we definitely don't talk very often which is okay with me. If we ended it on good terms, then maybe I'd consider it. I only have one ex, but we're still good friends. 10. Has anyone ever done this before? I can't say it was a mutual break up, and I felt like the ultimate douche after doing that, but I did state immediately after that I wanted to be friends still, and she eventually agreed. Joined Jun 2, 2012 Messages 1,315 Reaction score 258. He’s since married and is doing well from what he tells me. I could not think of anything worse for my life. She's marrying one off my friends with whom I actually tried to help her get into a relationship a few years ago. You realize how you sound? Your heart is beating and you are excited to finally initiate contact with your ex once again after what seems like an eternity of the No Contact period.. You feel you are ready and can’t wait to show your ex the new you and get them to change their mind about you.. You’re excited, but also hesitant. Usually something nostalgic or hearing a song stirs some memories. I have always had great experiences being friends with my exs after the fact. We split up about 5 months ago on mutual terms, very incomparable. Thank you for visiting and have a great day! share. In my case it was 8 years. save. Have you ever contacted an ex out of the blue? Anonymous. Sort by. I've noticed myself doing it and a friend of mine as well. Realationships that lasted 6 months or more has an ex ever contacted you. If you’ve been with someone long enough and had a close connection, you’ll be able to actually feel them when they miss you. I had given one of my drawings to her when we were together, and she left it in a closet in her mother's house. We are a pair that is better off as friends not lovers. JPKilla 9 years ago #2. Posted by. Have some damn dignity. But as far as I know no mutual bad feelings or anything like that. He took your heart, threw it to the ground, stomped on it, and then took a sledgehammer to crush the remaining pieces to dust. I believe that most people get the concept of the No Contact Rule wrong.The idea is that you won`t contact your ex for a certain period of time (usually 30-60 days) after which you will make contact again. Now, the next time I think of contacting an ex, I just let the thought sit, then let it go. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. This thread is archived. 1 y. You never thought it would, but it did. We've both moved on but we still check in from time to time. Know yourself, and know your ex. Updates: Follow. I have conducted a survey from my past clients and asked them how long it took their exes to reach out. I was drunk one night several years ago and a high school ex showed up in Facebook's "people you may know". In my case it was 8 years. . ... My most recent ex contacted me right after New Year's. Have you ever contacted an ex out of the blue? But then we started chatting on FB and that's all it's been since. It’s important that you continue to think about yourself. Like you guys broke up, that means you guys are done. If you're wondering "will I ever hear from my ex again," I may have some good news for you. Add Opinion. 1. 18 comments. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. "I dont wanna get back together, and i have no real reason for contacting you...so...what are you doing?". I sent him a brief message about how he popped up in that regard that helps breadcrumbs she me! 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